Divorce: Helping the kids to read their way through it
We’ve looked before at the issues that can hit children whose parents are divorcing. Let’s not shy away from the truth of it; it is tough on children to witness the breakdown of their own family. You may have agonised over your decision, and considered every angle – including theirs. But, depending on their age and inclination, there may be a significant delay between your making a decision to separate (that you know is ultimately in everyone’s best interests) and your kid’s appreciation of that. So, what to do in the interim, to help them understand what has happened?
Well, one way forward might be through books and stories. Here’s our handy guide to some of the best books around for families travelling the divorcing road.
For the kids:
Dinasaurs Divorce – Larene Krasny Brown, Marc Brown
With simple, direct text and illustrations, this book aims to help young children and their families to deal with the confusion, misconceptions and anxieties which can arise from divorce.
It’s not your fault Koko bear – Vicky Lansky, Jane Prince
KoKo is a sad bear who learns the divorce is not his fault, that those sad feelings will pass, that a child can love and be loved by both parents, even when living in a family apart.
Huge Bag of Worries – Virginia Ironside, Frank Rodgers
Wherever Jenny goes, her worries follow her – in a big blue bag. They are there when she goes swimming, when she is watching TV, and even when she is in the lavatory. Jenny decides they will have to go. Find out how!
When Mom and Dad Divorce – Marje Eaton Heergaard
A workbook to help children work out their feelings about separation and divorce.
My Parents are Getting Divorced – Melissa Daly, Florence Cardier, Clare Gandini
This calm practical book includes sections on tension at home, being in the middle, visitation, what to expect at court, learning not to blame yourself, and much more – and is aimed at older children.
Love from Both Houses – Gayle Jeanine Haven
When Christian’s Mom and Dad divorce and move into their own houses, Christian has people to love . . . and people to love him, from both houses.
Supernova’s Unique Family – L G Davidson
Travelling to our planet from another world, Supernova encounters different kinds of families on earth and learns that no two families look the same.
My Parents Still Love Me Even Though They’re Getting Divorced – Lois Nightingale, Blanca Apodaca
Through the story, children feel safe, learn divorce is not their fault and that there are ways they can choose to feel better.
And for you to read, a few titles that can give you effective strategies for getting your little ones through
Putting Children First – Karen and Nick Woodall
Truth About Children and Divorce – Robert Emery
When Parents Separate – John Sharry, Peter Reid, Eugene Donahoe
And finally, some online organisations who have really helpful information about helping your family survive the pain of divorce;
- · www.relate.org.uk/
Here at Prince Family Law we recognise that an impending divorce makes for very difficult times in the life of any family. Our experienced team is here to help guide you through the practical and legal aspects of the process, while recognising that powerful emotions are also at play. Come and talk to us.